Don't worry, its not happening for us anytime soon, but I can't help the way I feel. I am getting very jealous and almost upset. The feelings are really complex and if you've ever felt it you'll understand what I am saying.
The only thing I can do is ignore the mention of babies in any way and that is impossible!
Yup, I am going crazy (not that i wasn't already...)
Offer to babysit for a new mom for several hours, get your fix, then give the baby back. You'll get to play w/baby and still get a good night's sleep. Believe me, once you have one of your own, that particular combination won't happen again for a very long time. It's been 22+ years for me and I'm still waiting. ;-)
ReplyDeleteIt's natural to feel the urge to be a mother and I'm sure you will be before too much longer. Please take joy in your friends having babies and in turn, they will you when it's your turn. Hang in there, keep smiling and if you really feel strongly about it, perhaps have a conversation w/Danny when he gets back about moving your timetable up a little. That's a personal decision only the two of you can make. We love you and will love being grandparents when it happens. XXOOX Mom/Tracy
Good advice Tracy, babies are cute until they keep you up all night and get their days and nights mixed up. Also jugging your time between baby, husband and house work (washing the most) is very trying. It's been over 40 years for me and I still remember sitting in the rocking chair and crying because your dad would not go to sleep.
ReplyDeleteThe longer you wait and watch others, the better parents you will be.
Remember you will hang up your life as you know it...no more crafts, knitting, reading good books etc. Everything goes on hold until they are school age, then you get to do the homeroom mother thing and haul them everywhere. It can be fun but be prepared. You have to learn to laugh a lot.
Grandma
I know there is no rush, but lets be honest that I don't have a rational mind. My feelings don't seem to care if it the right time or not, or if babies cry and poop and drive you crazy.
ReplyDeleteI had been spending some time with Amy's twins, but now they are getting older and have decided they're afraid of me. That definitely takes the fun out of it! Danny and I have talked about it, but we've agreed we still have a long time to wait and I'm sure I'm driving him crazy.
What else can I say?
Maybe start planning for when you DO have babies? Knit a little afghan in preparation, booties? Put them in some version of a hope chest for later. It'll give you something to focus on now for later. Just a thought. Love you, girl. XXOOX Mom/Tracy
ReplyDeleteGood idea, but do you think it will make me go more crazy thinking about it all the time?
ReplyDeleteAll babies and young children seem to go through a time when they are afraid of people. Probably a good thing or they would go with anyone.
ReplyDeleteYou can plan for a baby by thinking about the kind of crib, car seat, etc. Also study about different ways of raising babies and what you like best. Don't buy a new car with four doors, just get a permanent car seat for the car and another for when you carry them.
Personally I can't see why you can't just carry them in your arms, but I guess I am old fashioned. Kind of like, was it really harder to carry books, or lug the book bag on your back.
Relax, you are so young, all the experience you can obtain now will make you a better mother.
Of course if you could have 3 or 4 at one time you could get it all over with at once, never have to do it again. Then again college might be a little bit of a problem $$$.
What ever you and Danny decide I'm sure you will both do what you think is right, after all it is your life.
Grandma
Well, with Lori and I leaving Japan next fall, now wouldn't be a good time anyway...Regardless, Lori and I will keep talking about it. Frankly, you all know good and well that I can't stand the little noisemakers!
ReplyDeleteYes, we know now wouldn't be a good time, but that mean we don't want them any less. If Danny didn't keep changing his plans on me...
ReplyDeleteBy the way, don't listen to him. He wants them more than I do sometimes. Plus, anyone who believes Danny doesn't like kids hasn't been around him enough!
It's obvious from the way Danny runs and hides from Sammy & Frankie he just can't stand kids. ;-)
ReplyDeleteHe's going to be a wonderful dad and you a wonderful mom. It'll happen when it's right and when it does, you'll be glad you waited. Your gradmother is right, do research now and by the time the time comes, you'll feel more than prepared for it. Plus, if you knit little baby things now, you'll have a stock of emergency baby gifts should the need arise. Bonus! XXOOX Mom/Tracy